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Parenting 101

Our parish sponsored a four-part series of free parenting talks. We were able to attend the first two sessions, missed the third and hoping would be able to attend the last one on May 23.

The nice thing about the parish leading such an activity is the talks cover both spiritual and psychological aspects on parenting. The first part of each talk is delivered by a priest and gives a biblical basis as to how we should raise our children in relation to the theme of the talk, while the second part is delivered by a lay person who talks about the topic from a socio-psychological perspective.

One of the things we discussed and learned were general personality traits of a child based on their birth order. Of course, there are always exceptions to the general rule.

*I seemed to have missed taking notes on the qualities of an eldest child… where was I?

Only child – “strives to get his own way, be the center of attention”
+ Creative
+ Often acts very grown-up
+ Positive peer relationships as an adult
– May be pampered, spoiled, self-centered
– Relies on service from others, rather than being self-reliant
– Feels incompetent (adults are more capable)

Second child – “strives to catch up or overtake”
+ Sociable
+ Puts forth best effort
+ Develops abilities lacking in oldest child
– May rebel
– Can become “bad” child if oldest is “good”
– May be uncertain of abilities if oldest is successful

Middle child – “strives to make life fair”
+ Adaptable
+ Concerned with justice
+ Knows how to get along with all kinds of people
– Feels “squeezed” — may push others down to elevate self
– May be “problem child”
– Feels doesn’t have place

Youngest child – “strives to get service”
+ Knows how to influence others
+ Charming
+ Friendly
– May be manipulative
– Expects others to take care of his or her responsibilities
– Feels inferior or overtakes other siblings

How true is this based on your own birth order among your siblings or among your kids?

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So Proud of My “Little Mermaid”

We enrolled our eldest daughter, who turned six last March, in swimming lessons this summer. She had classes at 7:30 to 8:30 in the morning, Mondays to Fridays.  Often times, we go home around 10:00am already because she’d either be attending again the second class (9:00-10) or playing around with some of her “swimming” friends. More often than not, she’d be playing after her lessons.

Her classes started April 1 and ended on their graduation day — which was this morning, May 16. After almost 6 weeks of swimming, 5 days a week, she has become super “tanned”! It’s a good thing she’s not bothered by her dark color now. All she knows is how much fun she has when she swims. One time, I commented about how dark her skin is, she simply told me in a matter-of-fact tone : “Don’t worry mommy, my color is going to come back.” Good for her. It’s the mom who’s worried 🙂

I guess she (and our youngest) got this from me and my husband — we love the water too!

This morning during their swiming graduation, she finished second place during the competition for her age group. There were four of them in her event.

During the past few days, I noticed she was getting nervous about the competition and was even opting not to attend the graduation, just to avoid the race. She was also worried about swimming across alone, without any of their instructors with them in the pool. Luckily I was able to talk her into attending,  to just have fun and focus on just swimming across, not on winning.

I didn’t want her to miss this day out of fear. I know it will make a difference for her when she grows up and look back to this day. It may just be another summer activity in her life, but  it’s the small things that they do that will make a difference in how they see and will see themselves later on.

She was so glad that she did come to her swimming graduation. Aside from being able to swim across, finishing second place was another accomplishment that gained her more confidence. She’s very happy that she was able to swam across and very proud of the medal she got… (though all kids ages 6 and below were given medals, win or lose).

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A Mom’s Remedies to Temporary Insanity

Okay, so I may be going overboard with the “insanity” thing… but I’m sure that most moms out there, if not all, would agree with me on the exaggeration.

Being a full-time mom, a full-time wife and a part-time entrepreneur, I am no exception from those who suffer episodes of stress that seem to drive them crazy.

So here are the top things that give me instantaneous (well, almost I think) relief from those stressful moments (not necessarily in this order):


♥ Playing My Guitar (and sometimes, the piano)…

…And singing along.  Often times, I prefer to play my guitar more than the piano since I can sing along more with my guitar.  Come to think of it, it’s been a long time since I played the piano. I like to play mostly slow songs, though I have a few favorite fast songs, and I also play a lot of praise songs.

Every time I play, it helps me feel relaxed.

♥ Blogging (and blog-hopping)

Updating my blog, my kids’ blog, and our business blogs distracts my mind and eases the day’s worries and anxieties. I also love to blog-hop and read other bloggers’ entries if I can’t think of anything to write about.

♥ Listening to Music

Music, especially if the right kind, is an effective remedy for a lot of people I know and myself included. I especially love listening to 80’s music (yeah, I’m an 80’s kid), alternative and praise songs.

♥ Yoga

I used to do this one hour every day. But for two years now, it’s seems I don’t have enough time to do the complete yoga exercise, so when I feel a bit stressed, I just do some specific routine that helps.


♥ Reading Novels

I just recently went back to doing this one, and so far it is helping. For years, it’s either I didn’t have time or I couldn’t absorb what I was reading. I realized now it was the wrong choice of books.

♥ Painting (or sketching)

I actually haven’t done this for quite some time, but it is a sure way to restore my sanity. At times, if I can’t paint the traditional way, I do it digitally.

Looks like it’s time I start working on a new project.

♥ Designing

Design for me encompasses various areas of interest…  like design of fashion accessories and small trinkets, designing a blog or blog header (sometimes, a website),  thinking of creative ideas to sell, designing a scrapbook or photo album, designing bags and shoes (in the past), etcetera, etcetera, etcetera…

♥ Shopping

Yes, shopping is a woman’s best friend… only if you have the budget to go with it! As much as I love to do this, I can only do it when budget permits. 😦

♥ A Full Body Massage

Mmm, this one is absolutely heavenly… What more can I say?

Well, I wanted to add S-E-X but it takes two to tango, and if partner is too busy or isn’t in the mood, then it’s out of my options… Haha!

And then there’s going out with hubby, spending time with friends,  playing with the kids, camping and windsurfing… but sometimes these things need some time to prepare or plan, and have some dependencies apart from myself, so I decided to leave it out the list… 🙂

*Sketches/Illustrations in this post done by me, myself and I…  🙂  –  01.26.09

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Fight FOCA and RHB.

I received an email regarding this petition against the Freedom of Choice Act (FOCA) which gives a link to this site where US residents can give support to the petition.

Although this site seeks support from US residents, it was actually so tempting to sign and use a bogus address or an address of a family/relative who lives there. Instead I just decided to forward the message hoping that contacts in the US would support it, and for non-residents to spread the word.

I am strongly against abortion. It is sad how politicians come up with legislative bills that destroy life and not protect it, and encourages sex through contraceptive mentality.

In our local setting, we have our Catholic Church and different civic groups fighting against the Reproductive Health Bill (RHB). Although this bill does not include legalization of abortion (yet?) and claims to be “pro-quality life, enhances family life, does not promote contraceptive mentality, etcetera, etcetara”, it is very much worth scrutinizing before votes are cast or decisions made. These legal stuff are usually written in so many words that circle or loop around rather than go straight to the point.

I believe most common people have actually no idea what the bill exactly contains. Although there are online sites that post the bill (hopefully it is accurate), many probably have not bothered to read it. We are left to decide based on media articles, church-sponsored forums, organization discussions, etcetera. It is such a debatable issue, that people I know have such diverse opinions about it.

But speaking for myself, there are a number of items in the bill that I am not in favor of.  For one, I specifically don’t want my children to be taught sex education at the age of 10 (or in grade 5) by someone who will just be talking about it on a technical perspective without regard for the proper moral values about the topic of sex. Nor do I want contraceptives to be rampantly available and treated like over-the-counter medicines that makes pregnancy sound like a sickness. I still support natural birth control methods. And there are still more but I might not finish rambling.

For me, the solutions proposed are “easy-way-out” steps that our politicians want to implement without realizing how it can deeply destroy our society’s morality.

If you would like to proactively take a stand and support the Anti-RHB, you can go to the ff. URL to sign the petition:

http://www.petitiononline.com/xxhb5043/

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Sharing Their Candies

I missed my daughters’ trick or treatin’ activity last Friday… I had to man our booth the whole day during the two-day bazaar that we joined, so hubby was the one who brought them. They were so cute in their Witch costumes (not the scary one, but the fairy cartoon series).

They got lots of candies and goodies again. Year after year, most of those goodies would just go to waste since we don’t like having them eat all of it or they might end up with toothaches. So this time, they were allowed to choose which ones they would like to keep and we decided to give the rest away to less unfortunate kids that would loiter around the church premises on Sundays.

I think it is a good way to teach our kids (especially our eldest who is five) about sharing and help them to be thankful for what they have.

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Two Strikes

Two stones were thrown at me today. Wake-up call to bring me back to reality… back to my real responsibilities and priorities.

First, I woke up this morning with a soreness in my throat, tiredness in my body, slight feverish feeling and a headache. I guess this is what I get after five days of stubbornly sleeping at two or three in the morning because I was so caught up tinkering with computer stuff. Sometimes I think I have an addiction to my computer. Something I should not allow to take hold of me. I was deaf to the screams and clamor of my body that it needed rest. It needed sleep. So today, I feel sick… (and you might think, “so what the hell are you doing in front of your computer? You should be lying down resting”. Hmmm, I’m thinking the same thing too as I write this. Yes, looks like I really have it bad!). Striiiiiiike 1!

Second, due to my busy-ness this whole week, somehow it slipped me that my eldest daughter was supposed to wear a Filipiniana costume to school today. Honestly, I really don’t know how I could have missed that. I didn’t see or read the note. I’m always so conscientious in checking on her assignments and upcoming activities, and reading the circular letters being sent. I have been deaf and now blind, with my mind too focused on the things I wanted to finish this week. So in a last-minute rush, I had to search and ingeniuosly come up with something she could wear as a costume. Luckily, I did and had to rush it to her school so she could change in time. I felt guilty though that I failed to prepare earlier what she needed today. Well, with the proper preparations, I know she could have worn something better. Striiiiiike 2!

Fortunately, I don’t have any strike 3. Not yet, at least, since the day isn’t over as of the time of this writing. But hopefully, there will be none!

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